What I am looking?

By Samir
December 17, 2021
2 min read

We are living in strange times where people are looking for the right person without defining the parameters of right. It’s like ordering a shoe without knowing your foot size, and buying it because you like the colour and brand. Many young people in our times are struggling in relationships because they don’t have defined and understood relationships before getting into a relationship. In our times, we often confuse relation with convenience, comfort, attraction and similar small things.

Unfortunately, the most celebrated relationship of matrimony or love between a man and woman is the least understood and discovered. Generation by generation is indulging in this without knowing the dimensions of it and living it superficially. One must understand himself or herself to a certain where their search for a partner is based on what, and who they are, not the personality of the partner. Self-discovery is very vital to have the parameters to know what you need and what you can give in a relationship. Now, these days people find their partner first and then they work on the expectations which eventually lead to disaster. Know who are, what you need, what you can deliver, up to what extent you can deliver and then look for someone compatible. In a mature set-up, people will work on themselves first, will discover themselves first before getting into anything else.

I have come across many power couples and struggling couples whether married or in a relationship, and one biggest difference I can pick is the level of maturity they apply into the relationship as the defining factor. Mature people will have mature relationships and those who tend to go with the wind will always go through the lean in their relationship if not broke. We are so much influenced by the performance criteria of the modern world that everybody wants the best for themselves, boys want the beautiful girl, girls want to have a strong and rich man, but the real key to getting this is to become what you want. Your level of the walk will attract the people walking on the same level.

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